Saturday, February 25, 2012

Calling All Angels

All men of action are dreamers. James Huneker

...But not all dreamers are men of action. 
   The other day I was reading several articles about trends in sex education in the U.S. for class.  I was alarmed to learn how explicit the material is that is taught to children in some areas.  Many programs include promoting and demonstrating contraceptive measures and downplay the importance of abstinence.  Very few sex education programs discuss the aspects of appropriate relationships or the emotional contributors to romantic relationships.  Most parents agree that sex education is useful and also makes it easier to talk to their children about the issues of sexual activity.  Many parents, however, are concerned that some particular issues are not appropriate for children, and that children are becoming sexualized far to early.  Many feel the state is violating their rights as parents to decide what their children will and will not be exposed to. The fact that the government is overstepping their bounds may be because many parents won't take their responsibility to teach their children seriously.  These trends seem threatening to my dreams for my future family and my nation so I admit I was little frustrated as I was reading about all of it.
   As I was reading my roommate asked me why, if people are going to do whatever they are going to do, I was studying issues of sex education, etc. anyway.  I was surprised to hear the tone of apathy in his voice.  I have noticed this appalling and impedimentary attitude all too often, both in and out of the Church.  If we have dreams which we think are important and want to see come to fruition, then we need to become men and women of action.  Social scientists and politicians are picking up on the fact that there are major issues threatening our society and they are doing something about it.  They are taking up the slack left by parents who are not proactive about teaching their children.  The weight of all the empirical evidence is to great to ignore for all those who choose to see it:  We cannot simply “let the chips fall where they may”  or to put it in scriptural vernacular “wo unto all those who say all is well in Zion”  This is, and always has been, a war of influences and cannot be won by apathy.  For example, Bro. Williams asked a question the other day in class: "Who plans on being a part of your children's Parent Teacher Organization?"  A few students raised their hands.  He looked around the room and said "I invite the rest of you to repent."  Then he told a story about when his wife was on the PTO and, after a discussion about the school's sex education program, asked to see the video being used.  The principal said that she had confidence in the program that was being used and that they had been using it for several years.  Bro. Williams' wife again asked to see it and the principle said that she would sit and watch it with her.  After 5 minutes the principle got up and shut the video off, apologized, and vowed that that video would never be shown in the school again.
   I recently listened to a song by Train called "Calling All Angels"  The lyrics struck me because they list several problems that someone might face in contemporary society.  Over and over he exclaims "Calling all angels, calling all you angels!" First I hope that we, too, can recognize the problems and dangers in our society.  Second, I hope that we are willing to pray for God's help and divine guidance with these things.  And finally, I hope that we, especially those who are disciples of Christ, will awake and arouse our faculties to answer the call.  "Calling all angels, calling all you angels!"

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Decisive Direction

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. Walt Disney

  One of my dreams has been developing more seriously over the last five years or so.  This dream deals primarily with kind of relationship I hope to develop with my future wife.  I believe this is the most important and potentialy the most wonderful and joyous processes in this life and in the world to come.  To realize that this dream will take a lot of work to prepare now, as well as continual effort during the various stages of the relationship is daunting.  I admit I feel a little inadequate -ok let's not soft-peddle it- really inadequate.  Courage is power to face daunting tasks, disappointments, challenges, and personal weaknesses with hope and optimism.  

  In class we talked about 4 stages of a relationship; each stage is important for the development of a strong and prosperous relationship.  We talked about the modern phenomena of sliding from one stage to another which results largely from indecisiveness.  Bro. Williams posed the idea that perhaps the kind of marriage a couple experiences is influenced by the way they moved from one stage to another.  It takes courage to move decisively from one stage to another because doing so necessitates openness, vulnerability, faith, and charity.  These stages are:      
  1. Dating-  Many potential partners, many varied experiences
  2. Courting- One partner, many varied experiences
  3. Engagement- A time to plan a marriage, not just the wedding
  4. Marriage- Consecration, Charity, Covenants
  In reality the story shouldn't end with "happily ever after."  What does that mean?  It means we can't just expect everything to magically become happy and perfect even if we did marry in the right place to the right person.  Many become disillusioned and even doubtful a short time after the wedding because reality sets in again.   This can be avoided if the couple is willing to make adjustments together.  A loving, caring, joyful marriage takes time, effort, and sacrifice.

4 R's of Marriage Adjustments:
  1. Routines
  2. Resources 
  3. Roles
  4. Rules